Alone or Lonely?

February 2, 2009 by Timothy
Filed under Dating Singles

When someone is in a bad relationship we often ask ourselves why a person would endure such mistreatment or abuse. By the way, are you in that bad relationship? Hopefully not. But, even if you are there is hope and you shouldn’t look down on yourself for it. There are some who sleep around on a regular basis. This in essence is no different than the person in the bad relationship. What causes us to involve ourselves in relationships that are damaging to our heart, self-esteem and sometimes our body?

Alone or lonely is the question. Let’s start with a definition of the two words from onelook.com which is a great tool.

Alone – without anybody else; without any others being included or involved
Lonely – marked by dejection from being alone
Dejection – a state of melancholy depression; solid excretory product evacuated from the bowels (WOW!)

Again I ask, are you alone or lonely? If you are lonely, it is time to get off your butt, smell the coffee, or cocoa and get yourself in gear. Lonely people or those afraid to be alone, are the usual victims in bad relationships. Loneliness usually stems from a lack of self-esteem or confidence that may have been caused by a countless number of possible reasons. Maybe your friends don’t listen to your opinions. Perhaps your parents never spent time with you and you still wonder if something is wrong with you. Do you simply feel sorry for yourself because life hasn’t met your peachy expectations and time with other people takes the pain away? Were you molested or raped? Whatever the reason, it must be dealt with. The time is now to make a change. Every moment you spend being afraid, is a moment lost forever. Every moment lost being afraid takes with it an opportunity for greatness or love.

Fear can become a dangerous villain if allowed to operate freely. We tend to fear what we don’t understand. When we don’t understand, we get a major case of paralysis from analysis. When paralysis kicks in we get confused. After confusion, we become afraid because it doesn’t make sense and don’t know what to expect next. We fear what we don’t understand. It may be math, politics, relationships, finances and maybe even yourself. Do you truly understand yourself? What are you afraid of? What makes you tick? What is it about you that makes you afraid of being alone with you?

Are you alone or lonely? If you are lonely, now is the time to evaluate your life, past and present to get some answers. It is time to understand why you think, you need people in your life. Lonely is a state of mind that must be broken. When you aren’t afraid of being alone with yourself and God, great things will begin to happen.